CROSSiNG THE "friend zone"

You've had feelings for your friend for a while and you're worried about crossing the line and ruining the friendship. That's not really true, of course, but that's what you keep telling yourself so you can justify not putting yourself on the line and risking rejection.

Sure -- it's possible to love a friend of the opposite sex without picturing him or her in bed. Having feelings for your friend doesn't necessarily prove Harry's theory in "When Harry Met Sally" who famously declared that "No man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her."

There are exceptions to Harry's rule, but one thing is certain -- being seen as just a friend by all the people you want to date can be frustrating. So here are a few ways to prevent being stuck in (cue scary music): 'The Friend Zone':

1. Do Flirt

It's okay if romance is on your brain when you greet your friend. In fact, it can fuel the chemistry. It's good for your friend to catch you subtly checking him or her out. As long as you're not drooling or gawking, it can be sexy. You want your friend to think he or she imagined the look. Light touching and sincere and specific compliments are great for flirting, too.

2. Don't Be the Problem Solver

Are you on speed dial every time your friend needs something fixed or wants to process a bad relationship? It's nice to help your friend occasionally, but make sure you're not the one he or she associates with problems.

If you do come over to help, mention that you're happy to assist for an hour but have plans after that. Better to remain a little mysterious and have your friend wondering who else is getting your attention.

3. Have Fun

Create unique memories. You're aware of your friend's passions, so initiate fun and interesting activities that you know your friend will enjoy but isn't doing with others.

And -- if someone has dumped you, confide in a friend you don't have feelings for! Remember to keep an upbeat attitude and stay confident -- those are two of the most attractive qualities cited by singles when looking for a mate.

Of course, not every friendship ends with a romantic happy ending and you may have to be prepared that your crush just wants to stay your friend. You'll have to decide if that's enough for you.

from: What's the best way to let someone know you like them more than a friend? Andrea Syrtash gets answers from daters

so CLOSE, yet so FAR

June 5, 2oo8, from 8pm till 6am

—I wuz juz beside him

Ja kno what’s holding me not to have a relationship with him? It’s the thought of loosing the so called "friendship" which has been formed for almost 9years.. Haiiiz… *lab nako xa, *lab pud daw ko niya., lab lab nalang mi ani,. Haha!!

“sa heart jud center,wow! Hehe.bitaw tinuod kaau na. d na atik byang. Hmpf.mwah”

-lablayp

…lange-a oii. .

HE’S BAD… dutz why he meanz to me

*lab – lab gud na feeling nimu lab, pero dili dei,. Ing-ana gud

ONE EN ONLY YOU

oNe & oNLY You!

It took one look

And forever laid out in front of me

One smile and I died

But I do need to be revived by you

There i was

Thought i had everything figured out

Just goes to show just how much i know

'bout the way life plays out...

I take one step away

When i find myself coming back to you

My one and only, one and only you...ooh...

Now i know

That i know not a thing at all

Except the fact that i am yours

And that you are mine

They told me that it wouldn't be easy

And i know

That i am not the one to complain...

...this song was like an eye and heart opener for me.
that yes, i can never be happy alone.
i mean, it doesn't basically mean i have to be
with someone ( relationship wise )
but i need people to accompany me to be happy.
that's basically it. and also, time will come
that i will also need love.
a kind of love that comes from someone
whom i basically wanna spend the
rest of my life with. im not rushing into it.
i know, it will come. i just know. =)
i pray that God will give me the best gift ever.
whoever he may be.
he'll probably give me the best,
that's why he makes me taste the worst of the worst.
haha. =) seriously now, i wanna be contented soon.
i am broken.
each and everytime i have relationships,
its like, i leave a part of my soul to them.
i basically had five boyfriends,
meaning, i gave 5 parts of my whole
that now makes me broken.

i hope i can find someone who can
fill in the blank space in my heart.

whoever he may be, i love you.